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Dear Sisters,

For me, I really enjoy talking about relationships. Some of my ideas come from my own experiences but more recently from a book titled Undressed by Jason Illian. His beliefs are right on with the way I view dating and relationships. It is such a joy to watch two people grow in Christ together, hand in hand, step by step, day by day. I see couples and I honestly don’t think they take a step unless God lays down a path in front of them. I was sitting in church this past Sunday and an older couple walked down the aisle. They were both in their late 70’s. To myself I thought, “Why do they need to walk down the aisle?” They are the perfect couple. The older couple everyone wants to be like. They share a hymnal during worship, holds hands everywhere they go, and prayerfully encourage their brothers and sisters in Christ. Later that evening I approached Mrs. Grace. I said “I heard you had an interesting experience this morning.” She replied. “You know. God is always working on us. No matter how old you get. God is always working on you.  Sometimes we need to rearrange our priorities and make sure we are following God and his will. He wants to be the center of our lives.” Whoa. She totally blew me away. My point is that if God is not at the center of everything in our lives (relationships particularly) then we are obviously doing things on our own. We may want a relationship so desperately that we completely leave God out of it. Kind of harsh, but think of it like this. In a way we are saying to God “I know you are painting a portrait of my love story for me, but I just don’t think I can wait.” If God is the center of our lives, when he does bring that special someone to us, it will be perfect in his timing. Think about all the perfect intriguing things that God has done. Think about how perfectly God made you. You are unique and different from any other human being. First off, you are a spirit but you are also a physical being. Each one of us has a completely different genetic makeup. Let me tell you how intricate and complex God made you. If you took a single DNA strand and laid it out on the floor it would be about six feet long. If you took every single strand and connected them all together it would be long enough to go from the earth to the sun and back 400 times. How unique is that? What is even more exciting is that there is a God who made 6.7 billion people different but yet in his image.

Genesis 1:27

So God created man in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

 Is God the center of your life? By that I mean, is his presence dwelling in your thoughts, words, and actions? Are you guided by the spirit each day? I think we all need to stop sometimes and take a breath and just remind ourselves that God is breathing in our lives. The first step to any relationship is making sure that God is the foundation. Even more so that he actually lays the foundation. God wants us to fall in love. He wants us to experience a completely fulfilling, blushingly unpredictable, emotionally empowering, romantic love that is guided by him. Trust me when I say this. God has a far bigger imagination of what love can be than we do. We have to be vulnerable and let God undress our hearts. We have to strip off all the preconceived notions, expectations, and fears to experience a passion that moves us. Only then can God clothe us with a love that warms our souls and hearts. In the meantime there are some things you can do besides pray for your future mate. Pray that God will reveal things in your own life that you can work on. It can be as simple as this. “God you know my heart inside and out, my fears, hopes, and dreams, and I pray that you will shape me into the godly Christian woman I need to be so I can encourage and show compassion to my future husband.” Prayer is so powerful. God answers prayers and I pray that each one of you immerses yourself in the life of Christ and the will of the Father.

On a final note, when I think about the woman of my dreams there is a question I ask myself.  “Is she sexy? I want to be married to the sexiest woman walking the planet.” J I wish I could see the look on your faces. So, let me explain myself. Allow me to tell you what sexy really is. I also think many Godly seeking Christian men would agree with me. 

A woman who fears the Lord and displays the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, a woman who has a heart to serve the Lord and her passion pours into the lives of others, a woman who is nurturing, encouraging, and compassionate, a woman who is confident in her own skin, a woman who is challenging, mysterious, beautiful, delicate, and precious. That is sexy and that is the woman I pray for. I think if you prayerfully seek God and love him above all, with every piece of love in your heart, he will bring you your prince.